tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357824183602810204.post9089543617369890495..comments2023-10-04T18:21:42.677+02:00Comments on An Obedient wife: Label me ThatCandyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01760667255492341156noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357824183602810204.post-85723591140566098742011-08-08T10:17:33.742+02:002011-08-08T10:17:33.742+02:00Elysia~ thank you! I love hearing when others can ...Elysia~ thank you! I love hearing when others can relate. The letting go and being was really hard for me. Being submissive and obedient to him, I was completely comfortable with... but that was different than being comfortable in my own skin, with me. Once I got to a point internally where I could say... okay this is what I am... then yeah, I could finally just let go and be. Maybe I just like to make things complicated =) Probably I do! Lol! So glad you can relate and came over to read!<br /><br />Ashley~ Traditional... it's such a great way to sum it up, isn't it. It says it all, and yet, it leaves enough open for people to put their own take on it. No details required.<br /><br />ShafersGirl~ The secrecy used to really bother me. I resented that I couldn't just come out and say... hey this is how we do things. In my family women can be anything they want... except submissive! Anything you want doesn't really mean anyyyything apparently ;) Meh, then I got over it for one, and for two, figured out a title I could actually use without people freaking out. or atleast freaking out as much! I don't know why I need a label either. It isn't to pigeon hole myself in that spot, but rather to have a jumping off point that makes sense in my head. (as others have noted.) Thanks for commenting! Looove comments!!Candyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01760667255492341156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357824183602810204.post-88591178509188129552011-08-08T01:45:42.171+02:002011-08-08T01:45:42.171+02:00I love this post. As someone who is constantly tr...I love this post. As someone who is constantly trying to label myself I may try to just be who I am instead. Why I feel the need for a label is beyond me. Especially because I do live in secret. Isn't it sad that we all just can't be who we want to be and to let the world see. We aren't anyone, it is so sad that we have to hide this. I think that it would help so many marriages. Thanks for writing this post.ShafersGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00806203441750834534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357824183602810204.post-71742789186852165032011-08-05T17:54:01.826+02:002011-08-05T17:54:01.826+02:00Loved this post and I definitely also tell people ...Loved this post and I definitely also tell people 'we have a traditional marriage....he leads and I try to follow." That pretty much says it. Thanks for the reminder....Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00797273349419240025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357824183602810204.post-52613692809200695892011-08-05T15:40:17.808+02:002011-08-05T15:40:17.808+02:00Candy, I feel very much the same about labels. It ...Candy, I feel very much the same about labels. It really is a jumping off place for me too, like Sara said. I think the trick is to not pigeon-hole ourselves with one. I have a list of several that help me understand myself, but they are flexible and not set in stone either.<br /><br />I like how you say you can "just let go and be". I can identify more with certain women bloggers than I can with others, but we aren't exactly the same, and I keep that in my mind as well. I am me, and me is good! I'm a submissive wife, but I'm HIS submissive and "HIS obedient wife", which was the perfect way to say it. <br /> <br />I feel so wonderful when I hear the women in Blogland say that *they too* ask for permission, and then I don't feel so self conscious when I say it to a R/L friend, which I did just last night. I think she's come to accept it. She no longer tells me how *she would NEVER*. I just tell myself, it's what I need, not what she needs. Or maybe she does and she just doesn't know it.(?) I'm just not ready to tell all, lol! :-)Elysiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15284256494178026716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357824183602810204.post-52184769249593300052011-08-05T07:23:11.408+02:002011-08-05T07:23:11.408+02:00Stormy~ Amen to everything you said! Especially~ l...Stormy~ Amen to everything you said! Especially~ lol~ especially the whole thing! I was going to pick the second paragraph, but I couldn't... the whole comment is perfect :)<br /><br />Sara~ I agree, in the end it's about how the two of you work together.. how you define it doesn't really matter. Mr.Man and I were talking about that last night. It can't ever really be the same for everyone because every person is different and they are interacting with someone else who is also different. I think I struggled with it more when we moved to Italy because where we lived before I just had more friends that didn't "know" but knew enough and didn't care. Here, any hint of anything sent off an explosion. Yet, at the same time I was being pressed for info since their marriages were really in the tank. I guess it just made me contemplate it a little more, if that made sense. <br /><br />Meow~ Husband and wife are underrated words :D When you really get what those words mean they bring in a whole new, wonderful, warm, happy place in your heart. Nice!Candyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01760667255492341156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357824183602810204.post-55890650242493333642011-08-04T20:08:11.274+02:002011-08-04T20:08:11.274+02:00It is wise to shed the labels and pick up on what ...It is wise to shed the labels and pick up on what is meaningful to you as a couple. We absolutely love being just Husband and Wife because of how we define those roles. The outside world doesn't understand but we do.Meowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05807600710251731849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357824183602810204.post-45440046841009202212011-08-04T13:51:20.380+02:002011-08-04T13:51:20.380+02:00In the end you will be who you are, like some othe...In the end you will be who you are, like some others but not exactly like anyone but yourself. I think labels are just for general reference, the heading, not the true definition.<br /><br />It IS hard to keep things a secret, but I have found tons of support here in this community, and ways to phrase things to friends who might question me. I get asked the question too "How do you two manage to be so in love after 26 years of marriage? You're like newlyweds!" If only they knew! ;) Sarafindingsarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07352980311488921341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357824183602810204.post-49994534955067478432011-08-04T11:31:48.283+02:002011-08-04T11:31:48.283+02:00I know..it does feel like it's a secret life. ...I know..it does feel like it's a secret life. My other friends can do as they like, but I cannot. They don't understand why I rush to get home on time or MUST call home when told. <br /><br />But they are jealous because he is so attentive to me, and heaps affection on me. They say he's too controlling but they want what we have. I cringe when they talk rudely to their men and I think what a spanking I would be getting. <br /><br />I feel so lucky to have other blogs to read and to have people who understand how we really live daily in this lifestyle. It makes sense to us here! <br /><br />Welcome to blogging, btw!Stormyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16673792378276047115noreply@blogger.com